Mindfulness and Sex
Mindfulness and Sex
Mindfulness is downright sexy.
After all, what’s hotter than a partner who is focusing? Being Right There, fully in the minute, is about as ideal as it gets. So, it comes as a little surprise to me that we do not truly utilize the term “mindfulness” in relation to loving relationships– let alone love in the afternoon.
This need to be common, mainstream, slap-your-forehead-and-say-“Duh!” sort of understanding. I don’t pretend to be a professional on what goes on between the sheets (although I did give and develop birth to four children within five years) but I do understand this: it is absolutely entirely impossible to have a genuinely gratifying romantic sexual minute unless you are Right Therein it.
Oh, sure, it’s possible to experience physical pleasure when your mind is on something– or someone– other than that which shares your sheets. We’re talking about meaningful, linked, one-with-the-universe kind of lovemaking, and that, my friends, calls for Mindfulness with a capital M.
You don’t have to master every kama sutra position. You don’t even need any props or valuable gadgets.
It can be your regular Tuesday night missionary position in your socks and still be ka-ZAM– if you’re taking note.
Oh, and here’s a not-so-secret secret: if you are paying attention, chances are great that your partner will be affected and grateful enough to begin paying more attention too. See how that works?
Just as some individuals anticipate to have significant family suppers with the tv blaring, some folks try to have feel-the-earth-move sex while conjuring grocery lists or job memos in their heads.
By bringing mindfulness to the bedroom and beyond, you will likewise bring a greater sense of intention and focus, and your body will do a lot much better when your mind is on the very same page.
Instead of following those publication short articles that tell you “what do to in bed to drive him/her wild!!!!!” it would be more helpful to focus on what NOT to do. Simply put, do just that which you are doing, and absolutely nothing else.
The next time you get lucky, get mindful. Be Right There, completely immersed in your experiences, connections, and loving interactions with your partner. Put your whole heart– and mind– into it.
Now, that’s sexy.
I do not pretend to be a professional on what goes on in between the sheets (although I did offer and develop birth to four children within five years) however I do know this: it is absolutely entirely impossible to have a really rewarding romantic sexual moment unless you are Right There in it.
You don’t have to master every kama sutra position. The next time you get fortunate, get conscious. Be Right There, totally immersed in your experiences, connections, and loving interactions with your partner.